Ladies, listen up! One of Satan's lies to you to get you to compare yourself to other women or the prevailing culture around you is that you're not good enough. Truth: You don't have to try to "measure up" to what the world says you have to be if you know what the Lord says you are in Him.
Lie #2: You are how you look.
Truth: How your heart is towards God and people is what counts. You are beautiful inside and out. You were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:12-16).
Lie #3: You are where you live.
Truth: Even if you can't afford the big fancy house, that does not speak against your character. There are many people living in really nice houses, but it's not a home because there is no love there. I'd rather live in an average house where love dwells, than a fancy house where there is hate, discord, and confusion.
Lie #4: You are what you do.
Truth: You are not your job or occupation, or how much money you make.
Lie #5: You are your relationships. (Why aren't you dating? Why aren't you married? Why are you divorced?)
Truth: If God has it in His plans for you to get into an intimate relationship and then get married, your time will come. If not, perhaps God has given you the gift of singleness so you can serve the Lord in a particular fashion. Either way when you focus on God's plans and not just your own, He gets the glory. And ladies, no matter how bad a man has treated you (whether it be a father figure, or significant other), you are not damaged goods.
Lie #6: You are your religion. ("Godly women shouldn't have to experience this or that.")
Truth: No one is exempt from trials. But we overcome and gain victory in Christ Jesus.
Lie #7: You are your past (mistakes, sins, etc.)
Truth: There is great forgiveness in Christ and redemption by His blood.
Truth: You are made whole and complete in Christ Jesus!